What is it? Something you can’t make a decision on? Can’t figure out what to do? Maybe you aren’t sure how to navigate a certain relationship? Or perhaps you are trying to make a decision on which job to go for? Where to take a vacation? How to hold your child accountable? Whatever it is... you are struggling with this thing, and you can’t figure out the best way to handle it....What to decide?
A lot of things cause stress. For some of us, decisions can one of those things. Indecisiveness can make me crazy sometimes, and I know I'm not alone here.
I’ve been there. A lot. I recently made a joke that indecisiveness maybe a genetic thing in my family, as we all seem to be plagued by it!
Life is full. It’s full of decisions. Full of complications. Full of details to consider before making complicated decisions. Especially in our often fast paced life it can feel challenging to get clear on things, as sometimes it feels like we don’t even have the time to stop and really figure out what’s going on.
When we find ourselves in a situation like this, it’s easy to overthink things. It’s easy to attach too much emotion to our decisions, and be unclear about what we are doing and why. Many of us have a tendency to base decisions in our life on how it will affect other people more than ourselves, or simply get jumbled in why we are doing what.
I have a trick I’d like to share with you that works wonders if you are feeling plagued by indecision. It’s like magic I tell you!
I call it the movie theatre trick.
All it requires is a little imagination.
You know how when you are watching a movie…..if it’s a good movie, you get really invested in the characters? You start to feel a part of their situation, and you find yourself trying to tell the character in the film what to do?
Give a horror film for example….you find yourself yelling at the screen….”No! No! Don’t go outside damn it! He’s out there! What are you thinking?!"
Or in a Romantic drama you may find yourself saying something to the character along the lines of….”don’t do it! Don’t go back to him! He doesn't love you!” or the opposite “What are you thinking? don’t walk away from love like that! Why would you walk away?"
It's easier from the outside of a situation to bark orders of what should be happening right? So, how about looking at your own situation where you are struggling with a decision, and try to view it from an outside perspective?
Here’s the trick:
Sit or lay down for a few minutes. Close your eyes, and imagine yourself in a movie theatre. Feel yourself in the seat. Smell the popcorn. Really use your imagination to put yourself there.
Now, the big screen comes on, and it’s showing your life. Your situation that you are struggling with. To the best of your ability, in your mind's eye, view yourself as a character on the screen, looking in on this situation in your life.
Watch the storyline that lead up to this moment in time. See all the details, everything that has happened, everything that is relevant to what you are trying to figure out. Do your best to see all of this from an outsider's view. From a different perspective. Remember….you are watching a character on the screen!
Now, you’ve got the storyline down. You've seen it all. You know the character and the situation......and now the current scene is that situation that you’ve been struggling with knowing what to do. From this outsider point of view, tell your character what to do. What do you want to be shouting at the screen? Are you saying “No No! Don’t do it!” Or “Yes! Go for it”. What is the advice you are wanting to give that character? Talk to the character on the screen as if you would any other character.....tell her (or him) what you think she should do. Tell her why you think she should do that. Break it down.....dish out advice to your character.
I swear this visualization can be magical.
Why is this such a magical trick?
Because if you can successfully bring your mind out of the situation, and look in from the outside, you end up with a totally different perspective. Sometimes all we need to get clear on a situation is to take a step back. Step out of the story we've been telling ourselves about it, and look at it with new eyes, a new perspective.
I can’t tell you how many times in my life this has helped me out.
From big decisions to small. A little different perspective can go a long way!
So are you one of those people (like me) that struggles with indecision? Do you have a tendency to get wrapped up in the details of your own story and make decisions complicated? If so, I invite you to utilize my movie theatre trick. And let me know how it goes!
Wishing you Wellness!